By Sally Cross, Therapeutic Life, Intimacy & Relationship Coach.
Today an old 'friend' momentarily visited me; that thought of "not good enough"!
This has been a self-narrative that I have carried for decades, derived from long held unhelpful, limiting beliefs. I am happy to say that now I have travelled an empowering journey of personal growth, I have learnt to reframe these negative thoughts into something much more powerful and positive, releasing the restrictions that held me back, allowing my potential to grow and flourish!
Does this resonate with you?
These negative, restricting feelings can be an overwhelming sensation that creeps into our thoughts, often derailing our confidence and stifling our potential. However, this feeling doesn't have to define us. By reframing these thoughts, we can tap into a more positive and empowering mindset that allows our inner power to shine.
Acknowledge and Accept Your Feelings
The first step to transformation is recognising that you feel inadequate. It's normal to experience self-doubt; it doesn’t indicate weakness. Accepting your feelings means confronting them head-on. Reflect on what triggers these thoughts and how they show up in your daily routine, whether it’s hesitating to speak up in meetings or avoiding challenges that could help you grow.
Self-doubt is common. When you identify these feelings, you can start the important work of reframing them from negative beliefs into opportunities for growth.
Reframe Your Narrative
Most of our limiting beliefs stem from a narrative we create in our minds. If you often think, “I’m not good enough,” challenge this by asking, “What evidence supports this belief?” You might find that your perception of inadequacy is based on comparisons with others or unrealistic expectations.
Rewrite your story by replacing negative affirmations with empowering ones. For instance, instead of saying, “I won’t succeed,” try saying, “I have the ability to learn and grow.” This change in language can spur you to take real steps toward your personal growth.
Surround Yourself with Positivity
Your environment significantly impacts your mindset. Surround yourself with people that have a positive outlook on life, those that lift you up.
Engaging with a supportive community can ease feelings of inadequacy and help build your self-confidence.
Practice Self-Compassion
Self-compassion means treating yourself with kindness, just as you would treat a friend. When feelings of "not good enough" arise, pause and engage in positive self-talk.
Cultivating self-compassion can help dismantle the harsh self-judgments we often impose. For instance, instead of thinking, "I failed again,” consider, "This is a chance to learn and grow." This mindset shift empowers you to face challenges with resilience and strength.
Transforming feelings of "not good enough" into positive, empowering confidence is a journey that requires effort and commitment. By acknowledging your feelings, reframing your narrative, surrounding yourself with positivity, and practicing self-compassion, you can release the self-doubt and live with freedom from these restricting thoughts.
Believing in yourself is the first step toward realising your potential. You are more than enough, and your journey toward self-empowerment starts today!
If you are held back by your own limiting beliefs, and need help to reframe the self-narrative, to release the chains preventing you from reaching your full potential, I can help..I've walked that path before you, I have learnt the tools to kick those thoughts from my mind...
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