By Sally Cross, Therapeutic Life & Relationship Coach for the Midlife & Senior Years.
Ah, the holiday season. For many, it signals fun, joy and togetherness. However, for a significant number of us, this time of year is often challenging. The phrase "Bah Humbug" captures the feelings of those of us for whom the festive season can be overwhelming, isolating, sad or stressful. Let’s explore the lesser-known aspects of Christmas that make it tough for many.
The Pressure to Celebrate
One major reason for a "Bah Humbug" feeling is the overwhelming pressure to celebrate. Society creates high expectations, with the assumption that everyone should enjoy family gatherings, parties and exchanging of gifts.
Not everyone has the time, money or feelings to embrace these traditions. Many feel stressed about Christmas time due to societal pressures and expectations.
Financial Strain
The Christmas season is often a time of financial pressure. From buying gifts to hosting festive meals, expenses can add up. Many people feel obligated to overspend, leading to a cycle of debt and financial worry that sticks around long after the decorations are put away.
For some, this creates a sense of anxiety instead of joy. When the New Year rolls around, the stress from credit card bills can overshadow the spirit of Christmas. For individuals already grappling with financial instability, this festive time can serve as a harsh reminder of their challenges.
Memories of Loss
Christmas can take on a bittersweet tone for those who have lost loved ones. The absence of a cherished family member during celebrations can transform joyous occasions into sad reminders of loss.
The emotions can be incredibly complex. While many people laugh and celebrate, others may find themselves reflecting on memories with a heavy heart. This distress can lead to a desire to retreat from the cheery celebrations.
The Importance of Self-Care
Recognising and addressing these struggles during the this season is important.
If you are dealing with "Bah Humbug" feelings, make self-care a priority.
Here are a few strategies to help manage your holiday experience:
Set boundaries: Know your limits and communicate them with family and friends.
Engage in relaxing activities that you enjoy: Whether it’s reading, taking a walk, listening to music or watching films, find what brings you calm.
A Call for Understanding
The magic of Christmas time shines brightly for many, but it is essential to remember the struggles faced by others. By understanding and empathising with those experiencing a "Bah Humbug" Christmas, we can foster more inclusive and supportive environments.
This festive season, let’s be mindful of those around us. A kind gesture, listening ear or simply encouraging someone to share how they feel can transform someone's experience. After all, the true essence of the Christmas season is rooted in kindness and compassion, qualities we should all strive to celebrate.
If this is a time of year that is difficult for you, I truly understand..I've walked that path.
If you would like to talk over your feelings and challenges, then I'm here for you.
Here to empathically listen...
Below is a video of a talented poet, Fiona Shuttleworth, who kindly wrote this poem, titled 'Ho Ho Ho', for me to share with you x
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